Happy 3 month anniversary to my husband. I guess it’s better late than never to update you on the fact that on May 5, 2019, I got married, and we had a vegan wedding.
When we decided to go with the theme “Modern rustic with a vegan twist,” it was an easy decision to have our wedding at Greenspace Cafe, in Ferndale, Michigan. We absolutely love the food and decor, and it really made for the perfect place for us to get married.
We had a small wedding, around 65 people, so we had the reception on the side of the restaurant where the kitchen is and the ceremony on the side where the bar is.
Having our wedding at a non-traditional wedding venue was a bit stressful. I’m glad I only found out the morning of the wedding that ours was the first full wedding – ceremony and reception – that Greenspace had ever done.
We selected items off of Greenspace’s typical brunch menu. We started with cheese boards and a variety of toasts. And guests had the choice of the avocado benedict, biscuits and gravy, the breakfast burrito, and huevos rancheros. We requested slightly smaller portions than normal and had the breakfast potatoes served with each option.
Even though my husband isn’t vegan, Greenspace was an easy choice. Selecting the food options, on the other hand, proved not to be. But since we were going with a non-traditional venue, smaller than average wedding, and getting married on a Sunday afternoon, brunch food ultimately won out.
For us, it was all about personal touches. We did have a wedding coordinator for the day of, who literally helped us get down the aisle, but everything else was curated by us. Everyone was very impressed by all of the little details, from our memorial chairs for our dads, to our customized cake topper, down to the personalized napkins in the bathrooms.
We knew that some of our guests were squeamish about the whole vegan thing. It was kind of a goal to prove to people, especially those who are not familiar with this lifestyle, that vegan food can be beautiful and delicious. We also were mindful of the fact that just like this wedding was only a few hours out of the rest of our lives, this was one meal out of a person’s whole life, and a free meal at that, so if anyone wanted to go eat somewhere else after, they were welcome to do that, as long as they didn’t tell us.
Overall, the responses we got to the food were great. And no matter what, this was the perfect day for us. I’d dreamed for a long time of having a vegetarian wedding, but when I decided to go vegan, and my now-husband was on board with the idea of a vegan wedding, #ourveganwedding was literally the wedding of my dreams.
Wedding planning can be stressful, but we stayed true to ourselves, albeit not our budget. We were under budget on some things, but not others. Like my dress, for instance. Because I’m 4’11”, I knew that I didn’t want to wear a long dress. I knew I wouldn’t be comfortable in one or feel like myself, and I didn’t want to worry about tripping down the aisle. So, after the pain of learning that my budget and desire for a short dress was highly unlikely to be met by a traditional bridal store, I went the non-traditional route again, and actually found my dress online. And what you see is the dress, as is, no alterations needed!
It wasn’t all non-traditional. My husband converted to Judaism and we were married by a Conservative Rabbi. We stuck with the traditional chuppah, or wedding canopy, that was custom built for us and the top was covered with my dad’s tallis. The chuppah symbolizes the home that my husband and I will build together. My husband got to smash the glass at the end of the ceremony, which symbolizes both the good and the bad of marriage and life.
I feel lucky to get to walk through life with a partner that gets me, and on the most important day of our lives, was with me every step of the way. I know that even the best marriages have their issues, and I only hope that in times of trouble and strife, we can remember May 5, 2019, which was absolutely perfect, and a day that I will never, ever forget.
Feel free to use the hashtag #ourveganwedding if you have your own vegan wedding.
“Falling Slowly” by Glen Hansard and Marketa Irglova (Processional)
“You Are The Reason” by Callum Scott (Bride’s Entrance)
“I Melt With You” by Jason Mraz and Siman Tov! Mazel Tov! (Recessional)
“You Are The Best Thing” by Ray Lamontagne (First Dance)
Bride’s Dress: Modcloth – Chi Chi London Exquisite Elegance Lace Dress (https://www.modcloth.com)
Bride’s Engagement Ring: Birmingham Jewelry (https://birminghamjewelry.com/)
Bride’s Wedding Band: Macy’s (https://www.macys.com/)
Cake Topper: Etsy – Miniucaketopper (https://www.etsy.com/shop/miniucaketopper)
Chuppah (Jewish wedding canopy): Putzin Wood Studio (https://www.facebook.com/Putzinwoodstudio/)
Flowers: Pocket Full of Posies Floral Design (https://www.posiesfloraldesign.com/)
Groom’s Shoes: New Chic (https://www.newchic.com/)
Groom’s Suit: Macy’s (https://www.macys.com/)
Groom’s Tie: Macy’s (https://www.macys.com/)
Groom’s Watch: Be Well (https://bewellna.com/collections/mens)
Groom’s Wedding Band: Modern Gents Trading Co. – The Woodsman (https://modgents.com/)
Guest Book: Etsy – Pauline Design Shop (https://www.etsy.com/shop/PaulineDesignShop)
Hair: Milaine Grossbard (Hair By Milaine)
Invitations: Zazzle – Miss Tallulah Paperie (https://www.zazzle.com/store/misstallulah)
Ketubah: Jessy Judaica – Butterfly Glow by Nava Shoham; (http://www.jessyjudaica.com/)
Maid of Honor’s Dress: David’s Bridal (https://www.davidsbridal.com/)
Makeup: Liandra Platevoet
Memorial Shadowboxes: Personalization Mall (https://www.personalizationmall.com)
Officiant: Rabbi Robert Gamer, Congregation Beth Shalom (https://www.congbethshalom.org/)
Personalized Sign w/ names and date: Knot and Nest Designs (https://knotandnestdesigns.com/)
Photography: Mitch Fleming Photography (https://www.mitchfleming.com/)
Save the Dates: Etsy – Your Wedding Project (https://www.etsy.com/shop/YourWeddingProject)
Shoes: Nina (https://www.ninashoes.com/)
Smash Glass: Modern Tribe (https://moderntribe.com/)
Veil: Dusty Rose (https://dustyrosecollection.com/)
Venue/Food: Greenspace Café (https://greenspacecafe.com/)
Wedding Coordinator – Day Of: Taubman Events (http://taubmanevents.com/)
Yarmulkas: Zion Judaica (https://www.zionjudaica.com/)